There is a subplot in the ongoing saga of Los Angeles Clippers owner Donald Sterling and his alleged racism, one that involves his much-younger girlfriend as well as his wife of more than 50 years.
It’s sordid and ugly, but it helps to reveal the other side of Sterling: Not only does he appear to hold racially backward views, but he is also apparently something of a sexual libertine with extremely unpleasant thoughts to share about women.
Sterling’s attitude about the women in his life made an appearance in the audio recording that exploded over the weekend. He allegedly instructed V. Stiviano, his younger girlfriend, to avoid appearing in public and at Clippers’ games with black people. In a more extensive version of the tape published by Deadspin, the voice alleged to be Sterling also let Stiviano know exactly how much she means to him.
“I don’t want to change,” the voice attributed to Sterling says when Stiviano suggests that he can change his racial views. “If my girl can’t do what I want, I don’t want the girl. I’ll find a girl that will do what I want! Believe me. I thought you were that girl — because I tried to do what you want. But you’re not that girl.”
The Los Angeles Times reported Saturday that Rochelle Sterling, his wife of more than 50 years, was suing Stiviano for allegedly scheming to “target, befriend, seduce and then entice, cajole, borrow from, cheat and/or receive gifts transfers of wealth from wealthy older men” — in this case, Donald Sterling. She asserts in the suit that Stiviano managed to get millions of dollars worth of cars and homes: a $1.8 million duplex, a 2012 Ferrari, two Bentleys and a 2013 Range Rover — vehicles cumulatively worth more than $500,000.
The suit, which you can read here, was filed March 7 in the Superior Court of California, County of Los Angeles, Central District. According to the Times, an attorney for Stiviano countered that there was not “a peppercorn of a fact” in the filing or evidence that “the feminine wiles of Ms. Stiviano overpowered” Sterling’s “iron will.”
The recent events are an echo of a side of Donald Sterling that was revealed in a deposition he gave in 2003 in yet another lawsuit involving yet another apparent mistress. It chronicles Sterling’s self-reported lifestyle that featured blow jobs in the back of limos, an apparent foot fetish and, in the simplest terms, “sex for money.” The Smoking Gun published the incomplete deposition, from which pages are missing.
Here’s how Sterling summarized his view of his alleged mistress, Alexandra Castro, back then, after apparently being asked if she had ever been to an abortion clinic: “I wouldn’t have had a child and certainly not with that piece of trash.”
“This girl is the lowest form … She is a freak. A total freak,” he said. “I knew from the day she came in that she was a total freak and a piece of trash.”
But despite that low view of her, Sterling seemed to revel in relaying every sordid detail of their affair. He describes a time when the woman told him “how much she wants to suck me and takes my shoes off and licks my feet” before she would take her clothes off in a limo and perform oral sex.
“Her best sex was better than words could express,” Sterling said while under oath, explaining a note he had apparently given the mistress that said: “I adore you more than words can express.”
“That is the best sex of all the women I have ever had,” he said. “Because she asked, ‘Am I the best sex you ever had?’ … That is all she ever provided was sex, nothing else.”
Sterling described the couple’s sexual escapades “all over my building, in my bathroom, upstairs, in the corner, in the elevator.” He explained at one point that the woman was explicitly “providing sex for money.”
“She came usually after everybody left because that is when she wanted to have sex,” he said, “and that is when she needed her money.”
It does appear that the pair occasionally went out in public, as Sterling said the woman would “show up” if he told he was going shopping. “But I didn’t go shopping for her,” he made clear. “I wouldn’t want to buy anything for the woman. I was giving her enough money for sex.”
“But if I was buying myself something and she started to cry that she wanted something, then maybe I would,” he went on. “The girl always cried, never had any money, always talked about sex and how I was so cheap.”
Sterling was sure to paint the woman as endlessly willing to satisfy him.
“She just stripped every time you saw the woman,” he said. “I have never seen anything like it in my life.”
And Sterling seemed eager to spread his affections to every women he knew.
“Every secretary is honey. I’m a very flowery man,” he said in the last page offered by The Smoking Gun. “If you are having sex with a woman you are paying for, you always call her honey because you can’t remember her name.”