Porter’s Ex-Wife Criticizes Conway For Suggesting Hicks Couldn’t Face Abuse

White House counselor Kellyanne Conway, stands by as reporters speak to attendees of the event combatting drug demand and the opioid crisis, outside the West Wing of the White House, on Thursday October 26th, 2017. (Photo by Cheriss May/NurPhoto)
White House counselor Kellyanne Conway, stands by as reporters speak to attendees of the event combatting drug demand and the opioid crisis, outside the West Wing of the White House, on Thursday October 26th, 2017. (... White House counselor Kellyanne Conway, stands by as reporters speak to attendees of the event combatting drug demand and the opioid crisis, outside the West Wing of the White House, on Thursday October 26th, 2017. (Photo by Cheriss May/NurPhoto via Getty Images) MORE LESS
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Colbie Holderness, the first wife of former White House staff secretary Rob Porter, spoke out in a Monday night Washington Post op-ed to criticize White House counselor Kellyanne Conway’s suggestion that Hope Hicks was too “strong” to become a victim of domestic abuse.

Holderness wrote that she was “dismayed” by Conway’s comments on CNN’s “State of the Union” on Sunday, where Conway said that she was not worried about White House Communications Director Hope Hicks, who was reportedly dating Porter, facing abuse because she is “strong” and has “excellent instincts.”

Holderness said that Conway’s “statement implies that those who have been in abusive relationships are not strong.”

“I beg to differ,” she wrote. “Recognizing and surviving in an abusive relationship take strength. The abuse can be terrifying, life-threatening and almost constant. Or it can ebb and flow, with no violence for long periods. It’s often the subtler forms of abuse that inflict serious, persistent damage while making it hard for the victim to see the situation clearly.”

She argued that it took strength for her to leave her relationship with Porter and for her to tell others about her experience. She also charged that strength does not necessarily prevent someone from becoming a victim.

“Being strong — with excellent instincts and loyalty and smarts — does not inoculate a person against abuse. It doesn’t prevent her from entering into a relationship with an abuser,” Holderness wrote. “Abuse often doesn’t manifest itself early on — only later, when you’re in deep and behind closed doors. The really ugly side of Rob’s abuse only came out after we married, following three years of dating.”

Holderness came forward with her story last week and alleged that Porter punched her in 2005 while the two were on a trip in Italy. She provided pictures of herself with a black eye. Porter has denied the allegations and reportedly said that Holderness got the black eye when the two were arguing over a vase and the vase somehow hit Holderness.

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  1. When you see Conway and Hamhocks spouting this bullshit you have to note they just don’t know when to stop.
    Gasoline on the proverbial fire

  2. Conway isn’t stupid, so it must be desperation, using this kind of unbelievably damaging and toxic sort of argument. How many women in this country, at all social levels, have been in abusive relationships? How many had to use all the strength they could muster to get out and build new lives for themselves? Saying this kind of thing is like using really aggressive chemo when there’s no other weapon and the case is terminal without it. Either that, or it’s incredible sheer stupidity up and down the line, in which you’ll say anything, no matter how damaging, because you can’t stop yourself. That’s certainly possible too.

  3. Avatar for smiley smiley says:

    It’s not enough for this White house to sympathize with the abuser. They also need to call the abused woman dumb and weak.

  4. Porter has denied the allegations and reportedly said that Holderness got the black eye when the two were arguing over a vase and the vase somehow hit Holderness…

    Geez. Why didn’t such a big, strong, handsome feller like him defend his wife from that vase’s assault?

  5. KAC not knowing when to shut up? Who’d a thunk???
    /s

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