WASHINGTON (AP) — After 20 years without a permanent resting place, the remains of Matthew Shepard, a 21-year-old college student whose brutal murder in 1998 has come to symbolize the plight of the LGBTQ community in America, were interred at the Washington National Cathedral on Friday.
More than 2,000 people gathered at the Episcopal cathedral, the second-largest cathedral in the country, to celebrate Shepard’s life, mourn his death and honor his memory.
The service offered a measure of closure for Shepard’s parents who, until now, hadn’t found a spot that seemed suitable or safe enough to rest their child’s remains. It also provided a moment of unity and collective grieving for those in the LGBTQ community, for whom Shepard’s death has for decades represented the pain and discrimination many had experienced themselves. And the setting inside the same sprawling cathedral in the nation’s capital where U.S. presidents are memorialized lent to the weight of the moment as hymns, speeches, choral music and prayers for love, tolerance and equality bounced off the towering columns and sweeping arches, echoing across the nave.
Shepard was an acolyte in his local Episcopalian church, and when Bishop V. Gene Robinson, the first openly gay bishop consecrated in the Episcopal church suggested the National Cathedral as a fitting resting place for Matthew’s ashes, his family agreed.
“Matt loved the church,” said Dennis Shepard, Matthew’s father. “Matt was blind, just like this beautiful house of worship. He did not see skin color. He did not see religion. He did not see sexual orientation. All he saw was a chance to have another friend. Just like this beautiful home we have here.
“It is so important we now have a home for Matt,” he said. “A home that others can visit. A home that is safe from haters.”
Shepard was found badly beaten and barely breathing, tied to a split-rail fence on a dirt road near Laramie, Wyoming. He’d spent 18 hours there in the near-freezing cold before a cyclist discovered him, at first mistaking him for a scarecrow. He died five days later. Police said his attackers targeted him because he was gay.
Shepard’s death prompted a national reckoning — inspiring marches and protests, vigils and new laws. In October of 2009, President Barack Obama signed the Matthew Shepard and James Byrd Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act, expanding the federal law to include crimes based on a victim’s sexual orientation, gender identity or disability.
But Friday’s interment comes at a fraught moment for the LGBTQ community in America. The Trump Administration has taken steps to restrict protections, including trying to reinstate a ban on transgender individuals in the military and rescinding guidance for schools receiving federal funding on how to treat transgender students. Trump has also installed dozens of conservative judges and his administration, according to an article in the New York Times this week, is drafting language that would limit the definition of gender to only male or female at birth, stripping the transgender community of protection under civil rights law.
Robinson delivered the homily, at times overcome with emotion.
“I have three things I want to say to Matt,” he said through tears. “Gently rest in this place. You are safe now. And Matt, welcome home.”
The undercurrent of his address was political: He implored audience to “go vote,” and told them simply honoring Shepard’s memory isn’t enough.
He spoke of James Byrd, the African American man who was dragged to death behind a pickup truck by three white supremacists and whose name is on the same hate-crime law as Shepard’s.
“Violence comes in many different forms,” Robinson said, “and right now, the transgender community is the target. There are forces about who would erase them from America, deny them the right they have to define themselves. And they need us to stand for them. That’s the kind of transformation today makes possible: that we see the bigger picture.”
Some attendees wiped away tears. Some held hands and comforted each other.
Nicole Murray Ramirez, an LGBTQ activist, traveled from San Diego for the service. Seeing Shepard put to rest in such a historic space felt cathartic, he said.
“How wonderful in such a historic cathedral, that has been a place of so many memorial celebrations and funerals, that Matthew, a young gay man, deserved and earned that honor and respect from the nation.”
But Ramirez said the fight is far from over, and he worries about the tenor of the national conversation surrounding the LGBTQ community.
“These are difficult times,” he said, “I fear more Matthew Shepards.”
Rest in Peace, Matthew…
You will be remembered…
I’ve always loved to attend services at Washington National Cathedral. It warmly and sincerely welcomes all comers, as a national church should, particularly in these times. I wish this country could take a collective decision to let people be who they are and achieve self-fulfillment in whatever way they feel is best. Rest in peace, Matthew.
One of the most heart-wrenching crimes in my lifetime.
I saw an interview with Mr. and Mrs. Shepard yesterday about this. The father said something to the effect of he had a straight son and a gay son and he wondered how anyone could justify that one child should have more rights than the other.
I think that best illuminates the shortcomings in the thinking of those that would like for an inequality to be perpetrated. Choose which child to do it to. Choose which of your own children is deserving of less than the others.
Though his life was so brutally cut short, Matthew Shepard helped change the world in ways he may not have been able to imagine. The cowardly savages who took his life only managed to awaken the nation and the world to the inevitable realization that the bigots and haters of the world are the ones who are destined to be banished from society. It will take a very long time, and there are many steps backward such as those being foisted upon us now by the dangerous and illegal Trump “administration,” but in the end those who killed Matthew will be the ones reviled and cast out. The arc of justice is a very long one, and I have never been as discouraged as I am now given the ongoing Trump disaster in Washington. But we’ve come a long, long way since Matthew’s life was stolen from him, and we will slowly but surely keep making progress. Rest in peace Matthew.